Crazy Love

Posted Up: March 1st 2001
At the time this was written (2001), I was speaking from a second hand point of view. Meaning: I wasn't in a relationship, but seen crazy ones. Now, I'm involved, and I don't really do my part to keep things all nice and rosey between us. I'm dumb at times, and that's all on me. I still hold true to these statements and beliefs though, so read what my views are in this article.

How far would you go for the one you think you love? Would you psycho out on them because they crossed you? Would you do the ultimate injustice and take their life because they was wronging you in the worst way; by cheating on you? I mean, if you really think about it, are you capable of crossing all kinds of boundaries and beliefs because things went awry between you and them? Is it possible to feel so traumatized and hurt that you'd want to do something more along the lines of physical harm to try and equal the emotion turmoil they put you through? I would think not, but I can only speak for myself.

I know of more than one person who keeps going back to a person they, seemingly, cannot stand. Yeah, there may be extenuating circumstances (I.E. kids) involved in their choice, but even if those circumstances weren't there the situation would probably be the same. Yet, it takes two to keep up this li'l charade of a relationship alive. One may call repeatedly, yell, and argue, but who listens and stays on the line to hear all of it every time? One can swing and inflict bruises with harmful intentions at the time, but who's the one sporting those marks of abuse while taking them back with a belief that things will get better? One can cheat and get caught, but then whines, cries, and lies to get back in someone else's good graces. They can be successful in their attempts, and probably start up all over after they are accepted back into the other's life as one half of a twisted relationship. Yeah, one person does something messed up beyond measurement, but there's another person usually there to accept them and basically condone these heinous actions committed on them.

If it's not things of previous mentionables, you got those who get buck over being lied to or cheated. Maybe even both. They may have been the sweetest, most innocent person up until the point they learned things weren't as they seemed in wonderful world. Once that light is turned on to expose the truths, they switch into a totally different person. Most likely a violent one. They abuse and at times even kill. They put their once significant other through some trying times thinking their revenge is some type of healing they can justify? If it's that way in their head, I'm afraid to see what else they think of as perfectly okay on other matters.

Me, I'd hate it if things went totally wrong after feeling like I was in a place of content. I mean, here you are feeling like you're in the clouds, but the actions of one person take you from the clouds to just feeling lost. You once thought everything was going so good, and then all of a sudden, you're on the opposite end of where you were. Yes, it's messed up, but I don't think its grounds for beating someone, or taking another person's life. If someone like that is capable of doing something so wrong, why isn't it possible that there is someone else available who's capable of doing the direct opposite. Yeah, it was a bad choice after awhile to hook up with someone, but why not make a choice to find someone else to make up for that? Everyone's entitled to make mistakes, but if someone continually does you wrong, it's your fault. Accept that, than move on. Not in a circle back to them, but move on in terms of finding someone new.

Now, I don't know why people continue to accept that nothing better is going to come their way, so they stay with someone bringing them down. I can only speculate on things I'm not totally sure about. For example, emotional stress they received at an early age from some type of event that's burned into their minds. Maybe it's some type of brain washing that happens on the daily to make them feel inferior? It could be a # of things, that's all I can really say on this matter.

Some might pose the question, "Why'd you write this Junior?" Well, I've witnessed some things in my life, and thought I'd share them with folks. I've seen these things mentioned happen. Well, all except the homicide thing. I've been fortunate enough not to personally witness that or have something like that happen around me.

For those who are happy with the relationships they're currently involved in, "Good luck with the future." I'm not sure if you really need it or not, but it usually doesn't hurt to have someone wish you well.

Posted on 04 Jun 2006 by Windreamer